Archive for Life Transitions

What Do We Know About Transition?

From a business perspective, there is more fear in the air than we have seen in decades. As a CEO, you have likely experienced many sleepless nights already. As someone in middle management, you are likely anxious about your future. As an employee, you may be wondering when it is your turn for the dreaded pink slip. This is a horrible time for everyone…isn’t it?

Actually, this turbulent time does not need to be horrible. It may be a matter of perspective. The real issue is not whether we have transition periods facing us, it is what we do in those transition periods. I am inspired by Jon:

Jon has been working as a solo practitioner in his electrical engineering firm for over two decades. As the owner of a small boutique firm, he was able to take advantage of a niche practice which provided him a great lifestyle. Then his world changed. Jon thought his life was over when his wife died unexpectedly almost two years ago. He adjusted by keeping himself very busy in his business. The couple had no children, so he could be as much of a workaholic as he wanted to be. By all outward appearances things got worse for Jon when his specialty market began drying up because of the economy this past year. He began having difficulty making payroll and had to let external support staff go. Rather than allowing himself to go into an emotional train wreck, he began acting pro-actively. Jon found a position with an international company which has a great need for his specialized training. Though he may still be in a bit of a honeymoon phase, today, Jon reports a life filled with interest and cultural diversity.

Accepting and “blessing” our circumstances is a powerful tool for transformation. But, just what is acceptance? Acceptance is surrendering to what is: our circumstances, our feelings, our problems, our financial status, our work, our health, our relationships with other people, the delay of our dreams. Before we can change anything in our life, we have to recognize that this is the way it is RIGHT NOW. Tomorrow may be quite different. For now, however, it is imperative that we sit with ourselves and accept. Don’t rush it, transition has it’s own timing. What we have for sure is now.

As the new year has begun, we all are in a new transition. It is very important to learn from yesterday’s lessons, and then move forward. Those who are intent on being stuck in yesterday will become tomorrow’s casualties. The irony is that by taking our time and learning, we can proceed faster when that time comes.

So, what do we know about transition? We know it is certain and we know it is a time for growth and opportunity. Do have a happy new year and transition with gusto.

Here’s to Growth,

Tim

It’s A Bugs Life

What a beautiful morning. Several days ago, I was sitting on top of my one man pontoon boat, alone on Anderson Lake. I had caught and released a couple of nice rainbow trout. There is something spectacular about being the only human on a body of water, lake, or stream. The nice thing about a pontoon boat is that while you are positioned off the water, the water is literally inches from your seat. The craft opens to the water between the two pontoons. On that particular morning the world seemed especially peaceful. There were several swallows and a large number of purple martins (similar to swallows) swooping around the lake acquiring their breakfasts. Early in the morning there were a number of other birds as well, including a magnificent bald eagle tormenting his friend, the osprey.

To a fly fishers delight, the morning hatch of bugs had begun. The bugs du jour that morning were chironomids, or better known as midges. The midge starts its life as an egg, transitions into a larva, then into a pupa. When nature calls, the pupa rises to the surface encapsulated is a bubble of gas which provides the buoyancy for the ride to the surface. Once the pupa breaks through the under-surface of the water, it begins yet another transition. At that point, this mosquito-like insect crawls out of its shuck. It sits atop of the floating shuck for a few seconds drying its wings. Then, the adult insect begins its first flight into a new life doing what insects do — making more insects. It is during these transitional phases and especially the emergence to the surface, that the insects are the most vulnerable to trout. I found it interesting that the midges in this lake were exceptionally large.

I literally had a front row seat sitting there on my pontoon boat watching this spectacle of nature. One particularly large midge emerged in the water between my feet. It was great watching it pop to the surface extracting itself from its shuck. Soon it began its slow flight up and a little towards me. It literally flew about two feet in front of my face so that I could examine the fine points of its wings and body. Engrossed in my face to face nature lesson … bang, unbeknownst to me, a purple martin flew at what seemed to be mach speed from my right side and inhailed the new born! Both were gone in an instant…

While no stranger to this cycle of life, I must admit that this event made an impression on me. Sure, adolescents are accused of living with invincibility and immortality. But you know, so do we adults. I recently heard a woman comment that she can’t image the world without me in it. It don’t believe her notion is so much a statement of her arrogance, as much as it is her detachment from her place in the natural world. The human race has a long history of neglecting our place in nature. Historically, we have so elevated ourselves that if we are not very careful, we too, like the small midge, may rise to a level of annihilation. Each of us have a decision to make. Do we live as stewards or consumers of our earth? A client of mine just last week was lamenting how “something is happening”. He went on to provide a long list of critters which are missing from his property this year. On this list were various birds, frogs, and mammals. Granted, his may be an isolated case. Or perhaps it is not. On a broader scope, the states of Oregon and California have closed down the salmon fishery on their coastal waters due to depressed numbers of fish.

It is everyone’s role to provide good stewardship. If not we too may experience the plight of the midge. Swoop…GULP!

Here’s to Growth,

Tim

Perfection

So just when is an apple perfect? Most people would argue it is perfect when crisp and sweet (except for the Granny Smith lovers). Is it possible that an apple is perfect at every stage of development? After it becomes soft and brown. When it falls to the ground and rots it is doing just what nature would have it do in order to provide fertilizer for the seed to grow into a tree. Then after the tree grows and provides buds, it is perfect — for its stage. When the apple is green, hard and sour — it too is perfect.

We in Western Culture get caught up in thinking perfection is like a ladder. But as we know the higher we go, the more we slip down. Beyond that, there is no top, no place to stop and say we have achieved.

Perhaps we in the West would be better served to borrow some perspective from our friends from the East. Amazing to think that we ARE perfect — for our stage of development. Worms and all!

Live Well,

Tim

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